This week finds me in a period of mourning. After a period of illness, a very close friend of mine has passed into Spirit recently and I am deeply saddened by his loss from my Earthly, physical life.
As a spiritual healer and psychic, people often mistakenly assume that I am not so effected by the passing over of loved ones as I know that they are simply going back 'home' and at some point I will join them back there, as will we all.
However, while knowing this does offer some comfort, it does not compensate for the deep sense of grief at having lost the person from this physical life.
Yes, we are all spiritual beings - first, foremost and always. But while we are incarnated here on Earth, we are also physical beings and our bodies of skin and bone have their own consciousness and intelligence. The body craves for the touch and smell of our loved one, the body yearns to see that person, hear their voice and their laugh.
This chapter of their existence, though, is finished.
Yes, they simply move to another form of existence and we may even continue to have a relationship with that person while we are here and they are there but it's a different type of relationship. This new relationship state is to what we must adjust.
There is no avoiding the raw pain of grief that comes with the passing of a loved one. And no good is done by denying yourself the process of fully grieving. Emotions must be processed, felt and released, in order to transform into something lighter and more positive. This is simply part of the beautiful cycle in which we're participating. There is also an honouring of the person in the grieving process. I would advise though, that you also honour them by calling to mind the times they were at their best, their happiest, their most generous, their kindest. Remembering their earthy life this way is the greatest show of honour and respect you can give them. And please let me assure you, they are very aware of your thoughts and actions with regards to their memory. So, raise a glass to their name, light a candle to their memory, get a tattoo, make a donation to their favourite charity... they see it all.
My final thought is to let you know that death can in fact be the ultimate healing. Sometimes, when I am asked to work at the bedside of someone who is terminally ill, my role is not to try and heal them of their condition. My role is in fact to help them transition to Spirit as smoothly as lovingly as possible, without fear.
Lots of love, Zoë xx
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Intuitive healer, horse whisperer and animal communicator who works with the angels to offer healing and guidance to all beings.