Gratitude. It can be a hard thing to feel sometimes. Being grateful isn’t always easy, harder still when it feels like life is just throwing you lemons. The worst is being TOLD you should be grateful, because sometimes you just don’t feel it. Full stop!
When it feels hard it’s usually because we are starting from a position of comparison.

When we compare ourselves or our situation to others we are not focussing on the ‘haves’ that exist in that moment, only what we feel our circumstance is lacking in that moment. This is dangerous ground, as there will ALWAYS be someone with perceived ‘more’ or ‘better’ and that is OK! That’s absolutely fine - good for them. Because I can tell you now, you have all that you need, you just need to know how to see it.

There is a line in a movie my children loved when they were young called Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, it includes the classic line, ‘if you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.’ Ferris Bueller wasn’t wrong. But all too often we are heads down, ploughing on trying to ‘get things done’, that we forget that life is happening around us, we forget to stop and smell the roses! So, let’s do that - right now! When you’ve finished reading this blog, close your eyes, take a breath and settle into the moment. Be aware of how you feel, where you are sitting, what you can hear, smell, feel. You have access to technology that helps keep you connected, electricity and money to pay the bills. You are safe, warm, fed, waterered - you are alive!

Practicing mindfulness can help lead us to gratitude. And this is a good thing. Not just because being grateful can help reframe a negative situation, the act of expressing gratitude can also help us feel better. When we express gratitude and receive the same, our brain releases dopamine and serotonin, the two crucial neurotransmitters responsible for our emotions, and they make us feel 'good'. They enhance our mood immediately, making us feel happy from the inside.*

Here are a few tips to help you find gratitude today:

1. Today - write down 5 - 10 things you are grateful for today - do this every day!
2. Volunteering - helping others and giving back is a great way of finding perspective and appreciating what YOU have right now.
3. Notice the little things - appreciate the little things around you - the sun is shining and warm on your face. You found a crumpled £5 note in your pocket, the lady in the coffee shop gave you a freebie, your favourite programme is on the TV tonight...
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Wishing you a fabulous October. See you next month.
Lots of love, Zoë xx

* Source: positiveneurology.com / Photo Credit: Gabrielle Henderson unsplash.com

Albert Einstein told us that ‘reality is merely an illusion, although a very persistent one.’ But can what we see, feel and hear really be a figment of our imagination? And how can stepping outside of our ‘reality’ actually improve our experience of it?
First of all we need to understand what the ‘world’ is made of and how we fit into it, in other words, quantum physics!  The original, unquestioned assumption that the physical world we experience, was indeed physical, led scientists to search for the ‘point particle’ upon which all life was built. This search, and subsequent experiments, revealed that the foundations of the physical world are actually made of energy - everything is made of energy! Our reality is an energetic one - the solar-system image of electors and protons as little solid orbs whizzing around each other we are so familiar with, does not apply, as energy they have no physical size - more ‘events’ than things. 
It is possible that unless some ‘agency’ interferes, particles remain in a probabilistic energy-wave state and reality as we experience it seems to be the results of human consciousness interacting with the quantium levels of existence that are pure waves of energy.* 

So if our reality is actually energetic information that the brain receives and translates into an image, then it would follow that we have the opportunity to create our reality! The possibilities are endless - limitless! But where to begin? 
First we need to find the right frequency. Ideally we want to reach Theta (4-8 hz). Theta brain waves govern the part of our mind that lies between the conscious and the unconscious, which is when we are at our most creative and conducive to visualiation.  
So let’s start with a lovely, short meditation* to ground and relax us:

1. Take time to make yourself comfortable. If your hands are on the earth, take a moment to feel it, the texture, the temperature, everything about it. Become aware of what supports you. Then close your eyes and straighten your back. Allow your thighs to grow heavy and your chin to be high. 
   
2. With your hands either in your lap or still on the ground, feel the earth rise up to meet your body and hold it. Become aware of the sturdiness of the earth beneath and visualise it as it rises up and supports each aspect of you. As you sit up a little straighter, imagine the earth’s strength traveling up along your sacrum, up across the spine, steadying it, reinforcing it.
   
3. Become aware that every day of your life, the earth has been here to catch you. Remind yourself that for each day that is to come, the earth will be here to catch you. Now open your eyes.
   

Now, let’s move onto a Theta visulisation*. 
You are a ball of white light in the middle of your chest. Your eyes are closed.

1. Travel upward toward your neck, gathering your body consciousness into your ball. You, as the ball, are growing bigger and brighter as you do this.
   
2. Go through the jaw and the head while continuing to gather the body consciousness. Stop at the crown at the top of your head. With a little bit of a pop, exit the crown and go three feet above your head. Look around.
   
3. Go up a few hundred feet and look around. Keep going past the sun and the moon and through millions of galaxies. Go past the universe.
   
4. In the distance is a ball of bluish white light. As you approach it, this ball gets bigger and bigger until it’s right there in front of you. Enter this light. You are in a whole new plane. Keep going through this light until it is all that exists.
   
5. Let the light wash through you and cleanse all your tension and impurities. Bathe in the light.
   

Now, in this stage you can begin to visualise all that you want to manifest. Enjoy!
My dear friend, Tamara Pitelen is trained in the ThetaHealing Technique®.  To learn more about Theta Healing and book a session with Tamara, click here.  
Lots of love, Zoë xx
PS. Don’t forget our new brand The Blend is now live! Our launch range includes a gorgeous pure organic essential oil rollerball trio formulated to help you find balance, calm and better sleep. And a 100% soy wax and pure essential oil blend meditation candle. Both are available to shop today! And to ensure we are part of the drive for change, we will donate a percentage of profits from the sale of our oils to The Menopause Charity. Click here to learn more and shop our launch products today. Following us on Instagram: @theblend_essentialoils
* Source: esalq.usp.br / deepermeditation.net / getjupiter.com / Photo Credit: Getty Images

Stop thinking so small.
You are the universe in ecstatic motion. 
- Rumi
I love this quote. It makes me think anything is possible. And you know what? Anything IS possible. You create your own reality, so why not create something truly fabulous?! 

As adults we tend to view creativity as something slightly less worthy of our time and energy than more important, serious grown-up things such as answering emails and clearing out the fridge. To indulge oneself in a spot of daydreaming is simply childish! We see ourselves as either creative or not creative, something we have or don’t have. As adults we have created a construct, a set of rules by which we live and where creativity and play are left for children. How sad! Creativity is for ALL of us and all of us have the ability to create. By tuning into this part of ourselves we can make our reality something wonderful. (It is also good for our health - Engaging in creative behaviours, even something simple like colouring, can improve our brain function, mental health and physical health*).

Creative Visualisation is a method of using your imagination to help create the future and reality you want. It is a specific way of using your imagination, a cognitive process that consists of forming vivid mental images of the reality you want to create. As you consciously change the images you see in your mind, you change your emotions on the subject of the images. The more you SEE and FEEL the future you want, the more you create that reality.

And changing our emotions to a subject is a very important part of the process. The energy we send out we get back, it’s the ‘law of attraction’. If we believe we are not deserving of the life we want, we subconsciously close the door opportunities that come our way and focus only on the negative, which serves only to strengthen long-held misconceptions about ourselves and our capabilities. But if we start to believe that we ARE worthy, we will open ourselves up to all the possibilities the universe has to offer - how exciting!

So, let us put aside our version of reality for a moment - forget the desk, computer, table, the body in which you sit and just take a minute to breathe … You are made of energy, like Rumi said you’re YOU are the universe. Albert Einstein said ‘Everything in life is a vibration’,  imagine you are part of this universal energy.  Now, what do you want to create? Make it real in your mind - include all the little details of how you want this vision to be in reality - the colours, the textures, the tastes and smells - SEE it and FEEL it, make it REAL in your mind. And keep this vision alive! LIVE this vision every day. 

To set you on your way, here is a beautiful meditation exercise from Shakti Gawain’s inspirational book ‘Creative Visualisation: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Your Life’. Now, go create!

“The universe is unfolding perfectly. I don’t have to hang on. I can relax and let go. I can go with the flow. I trust my own process. I always have everything I need. I have all the love I need within my own heart. I am a lovable and loving person. I am whole in myself. Divine love is guiding me and I am always taken care of. The universe always provides.”
​- Shakti Gawain

Lots of love, Zoë xx

PS. Don’t forget our new brand The Blend is now live! Our launch range includes a gorgeous pure organic essential oil rollerball trio formulated to help you find balance, calm and better sleep. And a 100% soy wax and pure essential oil blend meditation candle. Both are available to shop today! And to ensure we are part of the drive for change, we will donate a percentage of profits from the sale of our oils to The Menopause Charity. Click here to learn more and shop our launch products today. Following us on Instagram: 
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* Source: Forbes.com | Photo credit: Greg Rakozy @ unsplsh.com

​13 Million women are going through the menopause right now. Symptoms of peri-menopause can start up to 10 years before menopause, so this is something that affects a lot of women on a daily basis and yet so many women are left uneducated, ill-informed and suffering through symptoms without support, which I find terrible. Why does the stigma around menopause still exist in this day and age and what can we do to help break it down?

Perimenopause is the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, and menopause is when a woman stops having periods. This is a natural process which happens as part of existing as female human beings, much like menstruation. And yet, although conversation and education around menstruation, in the western world at least, has improved considerably over the decades,* the menopause is still seen by many as shameful and simply not to be discussed. But why?

Why? Well, to put it simply, we are obsessed with youth. Rather than accept the transition from one stage of life to the next as a beautiful part of the design, we say ‘Old’ and shut the door. Well not on my watch! I would like to quote the brilliant and absolutely stunning Selma Hayek (54) ‘People have the wrong assumption that the menopause is when a woman stops being sexy.’’For so long the concept of beauty in a woman was leaning completely to youth, and I think “F*** that Shit!” And I couldn’t agree more. 

The impact this wall of silence has on women's health, both mentally and physically, and to the economy is shocking. A recent Bloomberg article stated that the findings of a 2019 survey found that around 900,000 in the UK women quit their jobs due to menopause, 900,000 women. And a new report by the Government Equalities Office warns that ‘menopausal employees feel at risk of ridicule and gendered ageism, causing some female employees in their early 50s to call in sick for fear of experiencing symptoms at work. The report estimates that this is costing the economy £7.3m a year in absence-related costs!’ A separate study commissioned for ITV’s Tonight programme found that ‘1 in 4 menopausal women consider quitting their jobs due to their experiences.’

So, what’s being done to help make real change? Naturally Andrew Baily, Governor of the Bank of England ears pricked up when he heard these statistics, and in April this year said that menopause can no longer be ignored. And thankfully, more smart, forward thinking humans are beginning to take a stand against this injustice - The Menopause Charity, of which a number of high-profile women are ambassadors, has called for better education for GPs. The fabulous Labour lawmaker Carolyn Harris has called for a “menopause revolution” with an all-party parliamentary group set up to overhaul “menopause rights, entitlements and education.” Go Carolyn! 

And the team at Angel Oil Ltd HQ also want to be part of this ‘menopause revolution’ too! We have created a new brand called The Blend, which will focus on the development of pure essential oil products designed to help relieve symptoms of perimenopause and menopause. 

Made by women, for women, our launch product is a gorgeous rollerball trio formulated to help you find balance, calm and better sleep. And we will give a percentage of profits from the sale of our products each month to The Menopause Charity. We aim to launch mid-July, so watch this space! You can also follow us on instagram to keep up to date on how the launch is coming along @theblend_essentialoils

We are very excited about this new brand and hope you’ll support us and be part of the revolution!

Wishing you a wonderful day and thank you.
Lots of love, Zoë xx

*The wonderful Emma Barnett has launched a new book ‘It’s About Bloody Time Period’ where she makes a `...bracing common sense case for full and frank honesty.’
Source: peoplemanagment.co.uk |  Bloomberg.com | Style Magazine
Photo credit: Ian Schneider @unsplash

If this sounds a little easier said than done, I completely understand, we are but human after all. It can be very hard to feel thankful or grateful, especially when the chips are down, and a negative narrative becomes your default, ‘Well, of course it was going to go wrong…’ we are all guilty of doing it. But what if flipping this narrative could actually have a positive impact on our health and happiness?

With gratitude, we acknowledge the goodness in our lives. gratitude can help people connect to something larger than themselves as individuals, whether to other people, nature, or a higher power. In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships*. 

Sounds good to me! So what small changes can we introduce to our daily routine to help make gratitude part of our everyday lives? Here are my top 5 tips to help you get into the right frame of mind.

1. Shout it out! Make someone’s day and let them know how thankful / grateful you are for the things they do (or simply being themselves!) An experiment conducted by Soul Pancake, a company that works to discover the “science of happiness”, revealed when a group of people made a call to someone to say they were grateful for to express their thanks/gratitude, their happiness levels jumped from 4% to 19%.*
2. Give Back: Giving to others is a fabulous way to bring more gratitude into your life. Studies have shown that volunteering for the purpose of helping others increases our own well-being, and thus our ability to have more gratitude.
3. Keep a gratitude journal: Establish a daily practice in which you remind yourself of the gifts, grace, benefits, and good things you enjoy. 
4. Practice Mindfulness: Sit down daily and think through five to ten things you are grateful for. The trick is that you need to picture it in your mind and sit with that feeling of gratitude in your body.

​I’ll end this thought with a lovely, short meditation of gratitude to start you on your way!

• Sit down on the ground or on a chair. Keep your back straight and let your chin come slightly inward, as if in a prayer. Open yourself to your own heart space and close your eyes. Begin to observe what and more importantly, who occupies this space. Where does your mind go when you think about the important people in your life?
• Visualise them one by one. See their faces before you and allow yourself to be reminded of how much they mean to you. Allow any frustrations or conflicts you might’ve had float away, and repeat out loud the following: “I am loved.” And “I love.”
• With each person that filters through your mind, briefly remember one or two happy memories with them and feel your heart fill with gratitude for having shared those memories. As you go through the people, repeat to yourself the mantra: “I am loved” And “I love”

Wishing you a wonderful day and thank you.
Lots of love, Zoë xx

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 * Source: Positive Psychology | Harvard Health | ggia.berkeley.edu via get Jupiter 
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Home isn’t always a place is it? 
This is a question the boy ponders on the penultimate page of Charlie Mackesy’s stunningly beautiful book, The Boy, the mole, the fox and the horse. And it’s a very good question!

This year has seen us all spend a great deal more time ‘at home’. Yet for many this hasn’t led to a feeling of comfort as one would imagine is should?! 
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If one is to look up the definition of the word ‘Home’ in a dictionary, they would find it is ‘the place where one lives permanently, especially as a member of a family or household.’ However, as unique human beings, with our variety of cultures, needs and emotions, our quirks and foibles, we may find that our definition of ‘home’ is not quite so easily defined. 

This is because what is technically a ‘home’ and what feels like home may be two very different places – indeed it may not be a place at all! Home is familiar. It’s where you feel protected and comforted - it could be a space, a place, a culture, a community, a group of friends, a journey, your old house, new house, or a completely different country! It’s where feels right in your gut - it’s where the heart is. 

And, of course, no matter where your home may be there is always one thing that remains unchanged, and that thing is YOU! Home is what resonates inside of you - it’s the connection you have with your environment and the people in it. No matter where you are YOU have the ability to find that comfort and protection and ‘home’ within.

i dive into the well of my body
and end up in another world
everything i need
already exists in me
there’s no need
to look anywhere else
– home
The brilliant Rupi Kaur, from her book, Home Body

To help you find your home within and feel comforted and content, I’d like to share with you this beautiful meditation which will help you connect to the earth, feel grounded and at peace with yourself.

1. Come to a comfortable seated position, ensuring the spine is straight, the shoulders are relaxed, and the eyes are gently closed.
2. Take five full breaths, slowly and steadily as you drop deeper into this present moment. As you breathe, let the belly be soft to encourage the breath to flow as deep as is comfortable.
3. After these five grounding breaths, shift your attention to the earth beneath you. Depending on how you are seated, tune into whatever physical reality supports you. Hold your attention on the areas of your body that are in direct contact with what is beneath you. Stay present with this for ten to fifteen full breaths.
4. Then, gently shift your attention to hold the fullness of your body in your awareness. Note what it feels like to be in or with your physical body right now. Observer whatever sensations might be here for ten to fifteen full breaths.
5. Come back to the breath for another minute of mindful breathing. Remain attuned to the sensations of each breath cycle.
6. When you feel ready, gently open your eyes and begin to reflect upon your experience of this practice. 

Wishing you a wonderful day.
Lots of love, Zoë xx

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Source: https://rupikaur.com/ | https://mindfulnessexercises.com 
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How nature can help raise our frequency and restore balance 
I am always telling my clients to get outside and into nature! My daily walk is a must to help create balance and focus my mind. Many cultures have long recognized the importance of the connecting to the natural world as a way to improve our physiological and psychological health. 
During the 1980s the Japanese government conducted an exercise called shinrin-yoku, translated as “forest bathing” or “taking in the forest atmosphere” to see how a spending time in nature, away from tech, pollution and the stresses and sensory overload of the modern world could help improve the health of its population – and guess what?! It worked! Results of Japanese studies have shown forest bathing improves both physical and mental well-being such as; sleep quality, mood, ability to focus, and stress levels. Even Japanese doctors prescribe forest bathing! 

‘Everything in life is a vibration’ Albert Einstein 

But what is it about being in nature and amongst the trees that helps makes us feel better? 
Humans and the universe and inextricably linked – everything is made up of molecules vibrating at different speeds - faster, slower, higher and lower. Being in nature, your body more easily tunes into the Earth’s natural frequency, which is around 7.83 hertz, and can restore, revitalize, and heal itself more effectively. Interestingly, 7.83 hertz is also the human brain’s average alpha frequency. Alpha waves, induce relaxation but not quite meditation. 
 
So, we know it’s good for us, but how do we practice Forest Bathing?  
Forest Bathing can be as simple as walking in any natural environment and consciously connecting with what’s around you. This sensory experience can provide a great alternative for people who struggle with meditation.  
Forest Bathing How To: Sit or stand if you want to. Take a moment to appreciate your surroundings and listen to the sounds around you: twittering birds, rustling brush, trickling streams. Breathe in clean, fragrant air and soak in the sights of the textured ground and the shapes of the leaves in the sky. Touch the soft, green moss carpeting the shaded stones, or the rough bark on the trees. Let the stillness around you influence your state of mind and make you forget the constant motion of day to day life.  
Mother Nature is so clever, get outdoors today, tune into Earth’s frequency and connect with the universe.  
 
Lots of love, Zoë xx

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Hi Darling,
I'm sure you've heard somewhere about the importance of loving yourself enough. You've probably read articles or books; been told in a webinar; watched a documentary on it, or heard experts expound on the importance of self-love, as well as how a lack of self-love is the root of so many problems, including physical and mental illness.
Why then does it seem so terribly hard to actually do it? Why are we all so quick to criticise ourselves and so reluctant to praise ourselves, or to accept compliments?
First, let's understand what ever-present, insidious self-criticism looks like in daily life. For example, do you regularly say things about yourself, or to yourself, like the following:
'Oh silly me,' 'You idiot', 'For God's sake, what's wrong with me?!', 'that's typical of me', 'I've never been good at ...', 'I hate it when I do that...', 'what am I like!?', 'Ugh, I've gained so much weight', 'I've got a great face for radio!', 'I've never looked good in yellow/stripes/skirts...' , 'I've messed up again...', and so on.
Many of us spend many of our waking hours basically apologising for ourselves, or trying to compensate for our self-perceived 'failings'. Always putting the needs of others before your own is a lack of enough self-love. Working yourself into the ground to 'prove' your capable and worthy stems from a lack of enough self-love.
As well, compare how often you find fault with yourself, with how often you say something nice to, or about, yourself, such as: 'I've got a great memory', 'I'm really knowledgeable on...', 'I'm a wonderful cook/ baker/ gardener/ craftsperson/musician/ writer / listener...', 'I deserve some time off this weekend so I'm taking myself to a spa or cafe...', 'I love my hair / eyes / hands...'
Why is this important? Because self-love is the key to EVERYTHING! This is not just about your personal happiness, it's about saving the world! I mean it! More of us loving ourselves, knowing our worth as Divine beings, is the key to solving the climate crisis; the key to ending poverty, wars, inequality and injustice. it's the key to shifting life on planet Earth. How?
Because it is a lack of self-love that drives mean, cruel, jealous, thoughtless, ruthless, selfish, fear-based behaviour. It is when we do not love ourselves enough that this spills out into the world as abuse, submission and oppression, environmental damage, apathy, violence, greed, and more. On a micro level, when we do not love ourselves enough, we feed our bodies 'dead' food like processed sugars, we fill our amazing bodies with alcohol, pharmaceuticals, tobacco, etc. We end up feeling hopeless, lost, despairing, powerless.  
We cannot care for others or for the planet if we do not love ourselves first. Love is like a fountain that must be flowing within us before it can spill out into the world around us. If our fountain is flowing with self-hate, then that is what we spill into our world.
When did we learn to criticise, denigrate and belittle ourselves? Mostly in childhood, which is where almost everything is seeded. It comes from our parents and relatives, from media and culture, from teachers and religious leaders. Some of it is learned behaviour that we absorb from our parents. For example, if we saw our mothers belittled or put down by our fathers, we may absorb the belief that women are lesser; women must stoically bear suffering, women are unworthy of love and must 'earn' love through struggle and sacrifice, etc.

How do you get more self-love into your life?
1. First, see it. Notice your self-critical behaviour and start to change it. If you hear yourself chivvy yourself, or judge yourself, say 'no, cancel that, from now on I am kind to myself.'
2. Listen to your language. A sign of subtle self-bullying is the word 'should' and shouldn't. Hearing yourself tell yourself that you 'should' do something. 'I should do the cleaning', 'I shouldn't eat that'. Why should you? Swap it out with the word 'choose' and notice how better than feels. So, 'I choose to do the cleaning because I feel good when the house is tidy' or 'I choose to not eat that because it is not beneficial for my body, I choose to eat this instead...'
3. Forgive yourself for everything in your life that you regret. 'I now forgive myself for all the times I was less than kind, I forgive myself for all my perceived mistakes, I forgive myself for holding myself back, I forgive myself for the missed opportunities, I forgive myself for not being as rich / famous / educated (or whatever) as I hoped to be by now...'
4. Be open to the idea that you can accept yourself as you are: Each day, say, 'I am open to the idea that nothing about me needs to change. I am open to believing that I am already good enough. I am open to the idea that I have nothing to prove.
5. And forgive yourself when you find this hard and fall back into the old criticisms 'I'm too fat/old/stupid...': Each day, say to yourself, 'I am now walking the path of self-love and acceptance and I forgive myself when I stumble.'
6. Forgive everyone who played a part in your lack of self-love programming: 'I forgive everyone who ever taught me that I was lesser, unworthy, undeserving, inferior, powerless... I forgive them because they were also programmed with a lack of self-love; they were doing the best they could from a place of their own pain. But I now choose to do better than that. I choose to love myself unconditionally. I choose to appreciate myself, I choose to appreciate the gift that is my life, I choose to appreciate my body, my talents, my abilities. I choose to allow myself to feel joy and have abundance in all areas of my life.'

All the very best with loving yourself more! We are all a work in progress on this.

Lots of love, Zoë xx

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Hello Darling!
Here we are on the cusp of 2021. At last, how exciting! There's a lot of hope riding on this new year, isn't there? And I'm sure that you, like me, are praying for an easier time of it in this new year - tentative high hopes!
Regardless of what is going on in the world at large though, I believe that now is a good time to remember that you hold the reins of your life and your happiness.
So if you really do want to shake things up in your life in this coming year; if you want to transform emotionally, physically, spiritually and/or mentally, then you need to address what's keeping you stuck. What better time to do it than the start of fresh new year? This is a wonderful time to take stock, to evaluate where you're at and plan for where you want to be. The good news is that the only thing keeping you stuck is your own subconscious beliefs. It's not your boss who's keeping you stuck, or your partner, or your children, or your job, or your finances, or your health... it's your thoughts. Shift your subconscious patterning and your life cannot do anything but follow suite. In other words, it is impossible for your life to stay the same if you change your thinking. 
So, how do you do that? First you identify the type of limiting beliefs that you have rattling around in your subconscious mind; beliefs that are fuelling self-sabotage behaviour, second, you use one of the many methods available to evict these thoughts from your brain, methods like NLP, EFT Tapping, journaling, ThetaHealing, and more. As an example, I'll give you a link to a DIY 5-step process for releasing limiting beliefs, below.
The stumbling block for many of us is identifying our limiting beliefs because most of us are blind to them, even though they're the kind of things we often repeat - we think these beliefs are facts (eg, 'all the best women/men are already taken', 'women in my industry never make much money', 'nothing ever works out for me', ''I'm too old/too young to get that promotion', 'I'm too old/too young to change careers', 'it's too late for me, I should've done it years ago', 'I've never been able to lose weight before so I won't be able to in future', and so on.) As well though, limiting beliefs are like a Jenga Tower, they are stacked on top of each other and you have to get to the ones at the bottom before the whole tower comes tumbling down.
So let's start unpacking some of your limiting beliefs. Choose one thing that you want in life. Do you want a new relationship? Weight-loss? A new job? Getting out of debt? A career change? Overseas travel? To write a book? To start your own business?
Now, without thinking about it, I want you to take note of the first answer that comes to mind when you read the next question.

Question: This thing you want, why don’t you have it already?

Whatever comes out of your mouth next is a limiting belief or fear, eg, ‘I don't have the time', 'I don't have the money', 'I don't have the talent', 'I procrastinate too much', 'nothing ever works out for me’, ‘My body is determined to stay fat no matter what I do…’, 'Maybe I'm destined to be single all my like, I don't think The One exists for me...'
And this top-of-the-Jenga-stack belief is where you start your unpacking.
First, simply ask 'What if it's not true? What if it's not true that [I can't lose weight/can't change jobs/can't start my own business etc] What if I CAN have this in my life? And even if I can't see how that's possible right now, maybe there is a way, maybe it is possible...'
Second, ask yourself 'where did my limiting belief come from?' and look to your childhood. Limiting beliefs and fears are formed by past experiences and imprints from other people, eg,  ‘everyone in my family is fat’, 'I failed before and I'll fail again', 'in our family we have to struggle to get by'... An imprinted belief is one you've simply absorbed from someone else, usually a parent, and taken it on as a truth. So if your mother or father always said to you, 'no, we can't afford it...' you will most likely absorb this scarcity belief and possibly spend your life playing it out as your own financial problems. 
Third, and very importantly, ask yourself, 'how does holding onto this belief serve me?' This is where many of us stumble; we cannot see any good reason for holding onto a limiting belief. But if the belief is there, you are keeping it for a reason. For example, 'rich people are mean and greedy; I'd rather have less money but be a nice person', or 'if I get a new career it would take up all my time and my marriage would break-down, just like my parents' marriage',  or 'If I found The One, he/she would leave me and the rejection would be unbearable, it's safer to stay single'...
We are all in some way trapped by our own minds as explained in this article by Mike Bundrant of the iNLP Center. Called Trapped by Your Mind? Learn This Five Step Process for Releasing Limiting Beliefs, Mike offers a simple DIY process for self-healing. But if you think you need some help with releasing your old programming, find a professional healer and book a session. To work on this with me, click here to book.

AND HAVE A HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

Lots of love, Zoë xx

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