What a week it's been for relationships! I don't know if it's because Valentine's Day is just around the corner on 14th February but this week has seen so many clients come to me with similar heartbreak stories that it's what I feel the need to write about this month.
Heartbreak is an all-consuming, seemingly unbearable, emotional pain that manifests in the physical as actual chest pain, hours of sobbing, lethargy, depression, incandescent rage and anger, and more.
I've had an unusual number of clients turn up for healing this month who have been hit for six by an unexpected relationship end - in other words, their partners have walked out on them and they did not see it coming. One man's partner of nine years simply told him last weekend that it was over, he was leaving him. This couple have lived together and supported each other through thick and thin. The man who has been walked out on is in absolute shock and struggling to come to terms with all the emotions - sadness, disbelief, anger, rejection, hurt, feeling foolish. It knocks one's confidence in a profound way.
Another woman's fiance just suddenly announced it wasn't working and he packed his bag and moved out that very evening.
Then again, just this morning, a woman came to me for healing with the same story. Her partner had walked out and she did not see it coming. All of these clients, and several others with the same story, are hurting so much that they just don't know what to do with the raw pain and sense of rejection, even betrayal. They cannot imagine life without their ex-partner and do not know how to feel better.
Another of my clients, though, is going through a sudden new beginning. After many years of single life, she has quite suddenly met someone and is at the start of something new and exciting.
I feel that this is to be a theme of 2020, I don't know why this year is one of 'those' years but I feel that it's a year of endings and beginnings, in particular with relationships. This is a year when anything in your life that no longer serves you may very suddenly and quickly get wiped away - to make room for something else. Many people will be left reeling from the swift and dramatic change forced upon them but once the shock has receded, they have a clean slate. It will be a time for drawing into their lives something much better and more suited to the life they wish to live.
In truth, you will have probably had many earlier signs or nudges that something needed to change but perhaps you brushed these away or suppressed any nagging doubts. The universe does not like stagnancy and so will help you take decisive action if you have chosen not to take the necessary steps yourself. It feels rough at the time but I know that it always leads to personal growth and evolution - which is what we are here to do!
I do not for a minute though want to suggest that this 'ripping off the bandage' approach that the Universe likes to apply at times is easy to go through. It is not. Heartbreak is the name of this state for a reason, your heart is broken and it hurts like hell! What to do? Allow yourself to grieve. Something has ended, it's okay to grieve. Face the pain and allow yourself to feel it. Yes, it hurts but it won't actually kill you. So let all the feelings come up and sob them out. Do not turn to alcohol or other substances to numb the pain! This will simply suppress it and it will resurface later. (Oh okay, a little ice-cream for a weekend is alright.) Go and see an energy healer! See how much of that old energy can be shifted through your energy system more quickly than it might shift by itself.
What not to do? It is common for the jilted to resort to nasty text messages, mean emails, social media rants... please try to not do this. It is often done under the subconscious belief that 'any attention from my ex is better than none'. So we try to goad them into speaking to us in the vain hope that this will somehow lead them to realise the huge mistake they're making by leaving us. It never works.
Stay dignified. Feel the pain. It will pass and an exciting, incredible future is waiting for you.
Lots of love, Zoë xx
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Intuitive healer, horse whisperer and animal communicator who works with the angels to offer healing and guidance to all beings.